tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post2366416832640514347..comments2024-02-24T19:26:50.193-05:00Comments on sex and the beach: When Life Throws You Manolos, Walk the TalkMaria de los Angeleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12827363023111783564noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post-52087087416627711642007-03-31T12:06:00.000-04:002007-03-31T12:06:00.000-04:00Manola, thanks for speaking out on this. I have be...Manola, thanks for speaking out on this. I have been a victim of similar internet attacks in the past. Not only can you report this type of harassment to local authorities but you can do so as well to the FBI since it crosses state and @ times international lines. I hope Kathy takes it all the way to the FBI. <BR/><BR/>It is important for everyone using the net to protect their identity at all times. Women especially it seems. It drives me insane when I see people use their first AND last names as a part of their email address or website address etc.<BR/><BR/>As a former consultant in the technology field, I always instructed my clients to create an alternate name and use that all the time (ie: John Doe).<BR/><BR/>I hope more people will take the necessary precautions to protect themselves and to speak out when injustices are revealed. <BR/><BR/>Additionally, to my fellow SoFla Bloggers. I hope you'll cancel your BogHer memberships!Dayngrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18188692449680744194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post-12935279969362356512007-03-31T09:37:00.000-04:002007-03-31T09:37:00.000-04:00Interesting post, manola...check out the issue on ...Interesting post, manola...check out the issue on salon.com: http://www.salon.com/opinion/feature/2007/03/31/sierra/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post-28511556930414718092007-03-31T00:53:00.000-04:002007-03-31T00:53:00.000-04:00Thanks to everyone for your thoughtul comments.Thanks to everyone for your thoughtul comments.Maria de los Angeleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12827363023111783564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post-66272468338713201752007-03-30T20:08:00.000-04:002007-03-30T20:08:00.000-04:00M, I found out about this issue today through anot...M, I found out about this issue today through another blog and spent the better part of my day getting a crash course in blog culture - except for Hugh, I had NO clue who ANY of these people were. <BR/><BR/>I've read both bloggers supporting Kathy and others calling her on some shit (for example, this discussion at BlogHer: http://blogher.org/node/17339. BlogHer's very involved in this because Kathy has made some comments about one of their people who was also involved in Mean Kids)<BR/><BR/>I haven't formed an opinion on her personal matter, but as to the larger questions, which I'm also still pondering, I have to say that it's sick and sad. People who do shit like that to others are small, insecure individuals. Yes, the Internet offers anonymity, I myself have benefited from that in the past, but there are boundaries, just like there are in the real world, that cannot and should not be crossed. <BR/><BR/>Kathy has accused the person(s) of posting her social security number, address, etc, and if that's true, that's beyond sick. I would feel threatened too. I would call the police and probably freak the hell out. <BR/><BR/>I echo Hugh: identity matters, and if people don't feel they should be held accountable, I don't want to talk to them. Furthermore, people who would threaten another's life, who are misogynistic, who *joke* in a manner that is sexually violent should have no place in the blog world. Period.<BR/><BR/>I've tried not to get worked up about this, but the truth is that the more women accomplish, the farther they get, the more they have to deal with this kind of shit. Right now it's something *big* like this. But it exists in subtle ways in all aspects of our lives, and it's all due to men (and sometimes other women) who are SO insecure, SO small and sad and empty that they handle THEIR shortcomings and bullshit by pushing us down; by sexually intimidating us; by degrading and humiliating us. <BR/><BR/>Like you said: FUCKED UP!Terehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15850314798468099658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post-74904821302592007102007-03-30T16:24:00.000-04:002007-03-30T16:24:00.000-04:00I hadn't heard of Kathy Sierra until now but I fol...I hadn't heard of Kathy Sierra until now but I followed your links. That is absolutely shameful and disgusting. I know there are always warnings about meeting people online when it comes to dating, but you would never think to be scared of other bloggers! Honestly, using a pseudonym and no photos on my blog was a conscious decision I made because of this very fear (and it's not based on any personal experience). And although I respect and enjoy reading blogs where people post family photos and such, I sometimes think "is it smart to post pictures of your kids and personal info for all the world to see?" I don't know... maybe it comes from living in Miami too long. Scary stuff, M. Thanx for sharing.Balouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03097288538869681984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post-91595819721108913422007-03-30T14:39:00.000-04:002007-03-30T14:39:00.000-04:00This was pretty deep, MB. We all get goofy people ...This was pretty deep, MB. We all get goofy people commenting on our blogs. But that nonsense that Kathy had to deal with? Bananas. I hope the cops in her area trace who left those comments and beat 'em with a rubber hose.James Burnetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09473394820537351385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post-58981558919290643622007-03-30T14:02:00.000-04:002007-03-30T14:02:00.000-04:00I absolutely agree with you. I have been on both ...I absolutely agree with you. I have been on both sides of the fence (somewhat - never a porn star). I too work in the technical world and am subject to a harassment that most people would never recognize. I am constantly being called sweetheart or cutie or hon by my clients and then they act like they have been shown the secrets of the universe when I can actually help them with their problems. <BR/>I also have a coworker who tells me that he wishes he were a "hot girl" so he could get more sales. I know for a fact that this is not said out of meanness, just ignorance. <BR/>I love what I do and the industry that I am in, but the fact of the matter is that I am an anomaly. The "guys" aren't sure how to take me and I am still trying to find a happy way of coexisting after four years.<BR/>It's all good though - most of the competition underestimates my abilities. That is until I start beating them out of jobs....ADWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08973020172431227067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26349423.post-51764176133541665602007-03-30T08:15:00.000-04:002007-03-30T08:15:00.000-04:00Excellent, though-provoking post!What's wrong in a...Excellent, though-provoking post!<BR/><BR/><I>What's wrong in a world where porn stars respect each other and bloggers don't?</I><BR/><BR/>Probably because porn stars are professionals in their area (yes, such a thing is possible) and they have to play by rules or lose their lucrative career.<BR/><BR/>Blogs, on the other hand, are written not only by <I>anyone</I> but folks who hide behind avatars with names like Flag894. They have nothing to lose by letting their innate cruelty out. It's like when you're behind the wheel of a car and have no compunction to flip off and curse at drivers. We'd be more hesitant to do so face to face with them.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09763751210167358084noreply@blogger.com